So, your favorite “hard guy” is suddenly acting different? The “focused on my bag” and “no love in Lagos” quotes have stopped. The streets have lost another fine boy to love. They might argue and say, “na just cruise we dey catch”—yimu. The signs are already there. These are seven ways to tell a Lagos man has fallen in love:
1. He Won’t Hesitate To Spend His Money On You
Repeat after me, “a nonchalant Lagos man doesn’t love you”. You can quote us anywhere. If you have a problem, Odogwu will move Heaven and Earth to pay to fix it. From broken iPhone screens to emotional distress—cue spa reservation. The moment you say something is wrong, watch Odogwu spring into action.
2. He Starts to Show You Off
After family, the next most important thing to a Lagos man is his closest friends. If you don’t know his friends, you don’t know him. If he says he wants to drop by to see his friends on the way from that date at Dani—Na lie, he wants to show you off!
3. You Become His +1 Everywhere
“I think we should go here. ” He’s making plans and is including YOU in them intentionally—it’s a wrap! That man is gone. Most likely already planning your matching outfits for the next all-white party at Ilashe his friend is hosting. Forget that he’s still acting unbothered—love don catch am!
4. He Suddenly Suspects Every Other Man in Lagos
Babe, he’s been in the streets, and if there’s one thing he knows like the back of his hand? It’s other Lagos men. That friendly male coworker? Suspicious. Your gym instructor? Red flag! When you ask him why he doesn’t trust them. He just thinks “guys are somehow.” Can you blame him? Lagos men have audacity, and prevention is better than cure.
5. He Remembers Tiny or “Useless” Details
A Lagos man who remembers any detail at all is not “just a friend.” That man may forget his birthday, but remembers that you like agbalumo and shows up with a heavy nylon bag of them. Babes, that’s a man who has surrendered his “Yoruba Demon” license and is ready for a domestic life.
6. He Becomes Your Gossip Partner
No one gossips more than Lagos men. And they have gist for days. From toxic exes to workplace scandals, it’s why the boys’ group chat is so guarded. The moment a Lagos man starts to bring gist to you—mumu button activated.
7. He Allows You Control The Aux
His Shallipopi has now turned to Fola. Of course, the ultimate show of love is when he gives you control of his aux throughout the ride with both of you singing along to Simi—signs of a finished man.
If we’re being honest, love in Lagos almost sounds like gambling. You never know what you’re going to get. It’s why a Lagos man will form “hard guy,” but if he does any of these? Lock him down!
